Saturday, January 01, 2011

The Reason


WHY IS CURIOUS SOFA CLOSING?

In September of 2000, I opened Curious Sofa in an old building in downtown Kansas City. Little did I know then that ten years later I would be writing a closing thank you to hundreds of people who became great customers and longtime friends. Each and every one of you helped get my store on the map and keep it thriving for ten strong years. That alone is no small feat for any business and it takes more than a creative owner to make it happen.

I wanted Curious Sofa polished and respected as a local business. From the beginning I cared that my store was not just some dusty 'ol antique shop but that I was taken seriously as a retailer. I wanted customers to notice our attention to detail and see we were not ordinary. Four and a half years later, when I moved from the Crossroads to Prairie Village, everything changed. Suddenly my little shop became big business. I found myself signing a lease in a former GAP of all places with 3,667 square feet; I had seven employees in the beginning, constant traffic and over 4,000 pieces of merchandise on any given day. There was suddenly so much to manage that I went from working on the floor with customers to spending days in my office sorting through product to buy, events to plan, items to repair, markets to attend, employees to guide and on my days off I hit the streets to find antiques to sell.

When the press found out about us, it changed everything. Since 2001, Curious Sofa has been featured in dozens of local and national magazines. My home has been the backdrop for a few editorials as well and each and every publication has been humbling to see. Any business would pinch themselves to be noticed like this and I was no exception. Suddenly handfuls of people around the globe knew about me and my little shop. Calls, emails and requests came in from every part of the world.

When the economic crash started in 2008, I became even more obsessed over every dollar that circulated through the store. I asked advice, I downsized, I negotiated and I made the shop as lean and mean as possible to get through it. It was a great lesson to see what we could live without, but in the process, I was not having any fun. Every day my passion for antiquing, styling and finding unusual goods for you became overshadowed by doing the right thing for the business. Every single moment of every single day, 24/7, I was thinking about the shop. I found myself unable to have a normal conversation with anyone as it always turned into a discussion about some part of business owning. I eventually lost my spark, my passion and my smile. I was lucky to have a tolerant staff because during the next few years I was certainly no fun to be around, but we got through 2008, 2009 and 2010.

When Curious Sofa’s ten year anniversary came in September of 2010, it was time for me to take a hard look at my life and my business. I had recently been featured in the August issue of Where Women Create and they asked each artist for a piece of business advice. Mine was simple, “Design the life you want to live first, and then design your business to fit your life.” Ironically, I had done just the opposite. I was being ruled by my store and the daily operations to keep it going. The juggling of finances, finding the right product, selling it for the right price, planning the events, designing the next the big wow, keeping up with the blog, then the networking, watching the economy, predicting consumer habits and all the while hoping customers and employees were happy. Finally, after ten years, I became downright exhausted.

The fourth quarter of 2010 was also going to be our biggest press year ever. Five national magazines were featuring Curious Sofa in one way or another and I knew it was time for me to start selling products online to coincide with this national press and supply our broader customer base. I spent the summer researching online stores, designing a new website and gathering a tech team to start selling Curious Sofa merchandise on the web. Since I launched our online store in August, the sales have been beyond my expectations. Once I worked the kinks out, I could see that the more I added product to it, the more customers would buy- imagine that! This got my wheels turning that maybe, just maybe I could do this online thing and make a living from it. Most of my blog readers are out of town and although they have longed to visit the store, offering Curious Sofa merchandise online was the next best thing for them. If I concentrated on online sales it could get me back to the two things I really loved doing: shopping for goods and designing on my computer with the added bonus of less stress and more free time to travel. It was then that I made the tentative decision to close the store after Christmas.

In August of 2010 I told the staff this might be our last Christmas and finally on November 20th, I confirmed it. On December 13th we called a handful of close friends and customers to tell them of our closing personally and on December 18th a mailer and email was sent to the general public. Now it was official; Curious Sofa would be closing on January 9, 2011.

I knew from the beginning of this plan it was going to be hard for our local customers to hear. I wrote a script, I rehearsed every possible comment we might receive with the staff and we prepared our responses as well as we could. I knew most observers would think we were going out of business or declaring bankruptcy due to the economy because that was what was happening to every other shop in the country. The truth is, the economy was only 50% of my decision, the other 50% was a pure and simple life-style change.

I think our basic human nature has a desire to be heard. Haven't we all wished at one time or another that the other person could feel what we are going through? Part of me wants so badly to tell you of the hard work involved in running a business and the other part of me knows this is not appropriate because after all, you are the ones who have supported me, spent your money in my store and kept me thriving for ten great years. No one wants to hear the bad stuff, they want to see the magic and think it is all effortless. Yet, when a special place of yours goes away, you want to know why. So I am torn because I want to tell you the truth. I want to tell you about all of it, although the condensed version is what I have already described above: big store, high overhead, social climate, consumer habits, declining sales, hard work, little reward, no fun. The reason I started my shop in the first place started to fade into an avalanche of responsibility. There is a saying in business: The happiest day is when you open the store and then again when you close it. I get that now.

You have written often of how Curious Sofa was a light in your life and now of your disappointment in the news of our closing. I am telling myself if you were not sad to see us go, then I did not do my job because my goal was always to create an amazing environment that took you to another place. I wanted you to see wonderful items and great displays in magical surroundings, and my staff and I accomplished that- in Kansas! But after ten years, maintaining the Big Wow took its toll. I have devoted myself 200% to this shop but lost a little of myself in the process. My friends and family have been neglected, my health and my spiritual life too. Why I could not balance it all cohesively, I do not know. I achieved a dream I had always had and I am so grateful for that, but now it is time to follow another dream of a less complicated life.

Someone said to me recently, “You are such a perfectionist with your store, it is making you crazy. It has to be 100% or nothing. Why can’t you run the shop at 80%? No one would notice if it was only 80% fabulous.” I guess I just don’t understand that way of doing things. 80% would have never gotten me on the cover of Country Living magazine; 80% would have never gotten me 1,500 Facebook fans; an 80% effort would have never materialized my dream or the success I had or given the customer the inspiration you thank us for every single day.

Could Curious Sofa have stayed open? Yes, maybe, but you would not have liked what you might have seen; a store low on inventory, no special events, no big wow, nothing to ooh and ahh over, instead a shop just waiting on Halloween and Christmas when customers are motivated to buy more. This was not what I had in mind for myself or you. It is best to go out on top than for you to watch us fade slowly. I want you to leave with very special memories of your visits with us.

So finally, a heartfelt thank you to all of you. The local Kansas Citians, the blog fans, the fellow dealers, the press, the vendors, the artists, and my good friends who have watched my ten year story unfold. Your support, gifts, calls and emails will not be forgotten. You tell us we are special, but it is you who made Curious Sofa special by understanding what we were doing here and telling others about us.

And finally, to my staff: Heather, Abby, Dana & Jessi. All of you stuck it out with me over this last crazy year not knowing what the heck I was going to do. I know you will miss the shop but each and every one of you will go on to bigger and better things. You were the best team I had and any employer would be lucky to have any one of you.

So onward to an exciting year for all of us and remember, I am NOT going out of business. CURIOUS SOFA will continue selling online, posting on this blog and updates on Facebook. I have every intention of building the online store specifically with one-of-a-kind goods and many of your seasonal favorites. I am moving my office to my home, setting up a little studio to shoot website pictures and make original things. The blog will expand as I write about more personal experiences, creative projects and style observations. I will also be available for other creative outlets; magazine styling, retail consulting or product design.

After I rest up, I am buying a vintage camper and Pearl and I are hitting the road and attending every major antique show from Round Top to Brimfield and bringing all those goods back to sell online to you! Come fall, I may be ready to do a Curious Sofa event so all of you can get your visual fix and of course, I have a few other things up my sleeve! Stay tuned.

HAPPY NEW YEAR
everyone, and from the bottom of my heart, thank you for a wonderful, wonderful ride.

XXOO

107 comments:

Rachel Noelle said...

~*~*Best wishes for the New Year!!!~*~*Hugs,Rachel~*~**~

*French Farmhouse 425*

Hill Country House Girl said...

I never made it to you store,always wanted to, and have such respect for you and what you created over the years. I wish you the very best and know that you will enjoy this new adventure in life. Your blog post is clearly written from your heart and people have to appreciate that. Best wishes for a happy, healthy, prosperous and balanced new year!

Lorie said...

I was never able to visit your store, but the pictures you shared on your blog were always inspiring.

Enjoy your travels and I can't wait to see what you have in store for the next chapter of your life.

Cathy said...

Wishing you all the best in your new ventures. It takes alot of courage to make such a tough decision. And what wonderful advice for following your own heart, and your own instincts. The camper sounds exciting! Best of luck in 2011!

Whimsey Creations said...

You are absolutely right about balance in our life. If you don't have that, then in the end you have nothing. I think your online store will be fabulous - it already is. I admire you for choosing the exact right thing for yourself and wish you the very best in the future. Hugs!

Anonymous said...

Happy New Year to you all at Curious Sofa. I haven't posted here before but have recently enjoyed reading your wonderful blog after I came across it. I feel impelled to say all the best and hope you're looking well forward to a beautiful year. Love from Debs in Australia X

Sue said...

Good for you. I understand so thoroughly, for I did just what you did; I opened my beloved store in 2001 - but I only lasted four years. I realized that I simply could not hire people to be me, and, as you said, I was losing me. I know I'm not the only one who has received great visual joy and many happy memories via your blog. Again, good for you.

BB said...

You have had a tremendous ride!

Whatever you do next will be just as fabulous as what you've done in the past. I can't wait to read about and see the next stage in your creative, imaginiative, out-of-the-box endeavor.

I was able to attend Miss Frenchie's April event a couple of years ago, and I am excited to think there will be more events like that in your future.

You are and will remain an inspiration to those of us who admire your talent and style.

Happy birthday to your mother. Enjoy the day.

Brenda

Kristal said...

I too was not able to visit the store, but you had always been an inspiration to me as my life-long dream was to open a real brick-and-mortar shop. But lately, I have had so many people tell me to keep selling online. I can certainly understand the stress you have gone through to maintain the shop to the standards you have set for it. Yet I am also glad to see that you are not entirely gone, and personally I think you are staying one step ahead of the game by going online! I wish you all the best luck, and would still love to meet you one day and chat!

~Kristal

Carol said...

I think many people could wish to do what you are doing--being honest with yourself--that it is not about making a living but having a life. Doing what means most to you; live passionately and fully. Congratulations Debbie. Here's to 2011 and beyond!

La Maison Fou said...

Best of Luck to you and Pearl! It is I think, very brave of you to close the store. Imagining a life without the store and a new beginning for you and Pearl. Change can be and is a good thing too!
Happy New Year & Happy New Life.
2011 awaits you!
L.
La Maison Fou

gb said...

Best of luck to you. I will miss visiting your shop for inspiration. It was always a highlight on my trips to KC. I am looking forward to checking in on your online shop.

Garden Antqs Vintage said...

I have always looked to you for wisdom and inspiration and once again, you inspire me. I will continue to follow you no matter what path you take and look forward to seeing you in Round Top. Happy New Years!! Here's to New Beginnings.

A Cottage Muse said...

Sounds like you are happily skipping down your new path and I am glad you will be taking us along! Maybe I'll bump into you at Brimfield!!

Happy New Year!

Megan said...

I, too, am one of those who always intended to visit and never did. However, I have always enjoyed following and being inspired by your blog and am very excited for the possibilities that will open themselves to you due to the change of course you've made. Good luck to you! Consider me 100% supportive!

sweetpea said...

deb, i have no doubt whatsoever that bigger and better things are on the horizon for you. as a former shop owner i get every point you made and you said it so eloquently. unless you have had the experience of being a shop owner you can never know the pressure to be above and beyond the rest. and you are right, that is what is necessary to keep customers coming back. i often had people tell me how lucky i was to get to come to my shop every day (and i was) and "play around" all day being creative. oh my, it is so much more than that. anyway all the best to you, you know i want only great things for you and i thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the time you spent mentoring me (remember that?)when i moved to my second and bigger shop.

finally, that is so cool about the camper. and so cool that you are still coming to marburger.

hugs,
shelley

Laura @ 52 FLEA said...

Wishing you all the best in 2011. You have all my respect and admiration and I have no doubt that you have made the right decision. I look forward to seeing the progress in your online shop, reading your inspiring and creative blog and following along with your antiquing adventures! Have fun!
:)Laura

Jacqueline said...

Hi Deb! I'm very happy to say that I got to visit your beautiful pearl of a shop two summers ago! I love your style, and features, and blog, and I'm so glad there will be more Curious Deb!

C Pohl said...

your amazing...good luck, my new year quote to myself and you!!

deep breath, think positive BEGIN!!!

C

Karen said...

Congratulations on choosing quality of life as your definition of success. Sometimes we get so caught up in fulfilling the superficial trappings of what success is supposed to mean that life becomes miserable. I am so happy that you have figured out a way to do what you love that nourishes your spirit.Best wishes in the new year and beyond.

The author said...

It sounds like this is the very best decision for your life. As with everyone else I'm very sad. I loved coming in the store. I finally was able to come to the Halloween open house and it was sooo fabulous. I'm glad I made it. I wish when you and Pearl came out I could have meet you, but you were immediately surrounded. Best wishes for your online store and more balanced life!

My Grama's Soul said...

Oh Debbie....I did have the good fortune to visit your store a few years ago while traveling in the area...I have to tell you...it was a sheer delight...I'm so glad I did.

Wishing you all the prosperity and happiness you deserve.

Xo
Jo

patrice said...

you are so wonderful...best to you..I still have a box to mail will be sure to get it out this week...I am serious when I tell you I have a 1964 bambi 2 17" AIRSTREAM...not to sell but that sits a lot in storage...you can use it anytime....I mean that.I will also look if you are hot to get a small trailer...I remember closing my store...and all the feelings the most peaceful thing I knew and still do is the hand and eye and all you do that is the gift stays with you and comes out in new and magical ways...Best on the new adventures and new year
XXOO Patrice(STALKER girl)

Abby's Paperie Garden said...

You are in inspiration to all women around the world! Good luck with everything!

Abby

melanie said...

I closed my vintage store in November...and when I run in to customers there is nothing I like better than being told how much they miss my store. However, like you, I was tired, of only 2 days off a year (Christmas and Easter),of rising costs, etc... and am so very happy for the decisions that I have made. I, too, have some great plans for the New Year, and wish you all the best. I will be watching and praying for great things for you...you are an inspiration to us all!
Happy New Year!

Junk Exchange said...

Sad to see you close the shop. I stopped in once while delivering goods to Hallmark they had purchased in Warrenton. You wouldn't remember me, but I sold to you a time or two in Warrenton. Behind the old Hillcrest Inn. I know the closing of the shop only means you will be free to experiment with new exciting ideas. I feel a show of your own in your future. Wishing you lots of rest and a year filled with much success. You are one in a million Deb. Congrats on the new direction. Much admiration, Troy.

Ormolulu said...

Your blog has been a source of tremendous inspiration for many years. In expressing the reality of your journey, it has only increased my admiration for you. I've been merchandising and selling at vintage/antiques shows for over 15 years; and, believe me, the pressures are very similar (but you have to move the "shop" each time!). Customers expect more and better for less and less cost--certainly economic realities and blogs upping the ante have had their affect.

Thanks for sharing from the heart, and I genuinely look forward to seeing what you and Pearl will do together. Awesomeness times two--look out 2011! Wishing you great joy and a return to the happiness you so deserve!!!

~ Debi at Ormolulu

leslie janson said...

I cannot wait to see what you do next, and I congratulate and admire you for listening to your heart! Leslie

Sheri Howard said...

I am one of those who happened onto your store while I was in KC. A friend told me about you and I LOVE your shop. When I am having a rough day, I go to your store in my mind and have a wonderful time. I am sure your online store, or whatever you do will be wonderful. Thank you for all the beautiful things you have carried in your store. Best of luck in your new adventures!

Destiny said...

I have always read about your shop and I have been following your blog for a while now. I really admire what you're doing. It takes a lot of courage and strength to let something so precious go, but I KNOW that your new adventure will bring you much success as well and hopefully give you more time to enjoy the things that landed you in this field to begin with. Have fun on your new adventure and be sure to share all of your excursions with us!!! Happy New Year : ) ~Destiny

Glenda said...

You will never know how excited I was this last year when I finally got the chance to step into Curious Sofa. I'm just a small town girl from Indiana that happened to be visiting relatives 100 miles west of you. My loving husband knew how badly I wanted to see your shop, so we made the detour. For me it was amazing. My life has not yet allowed me to live out my dreams, but I long for them, and experience them through your creativity. So in the end, Thank You... Artist never know the people they inspire. You have inspired me. I will sit quietly on the sidelines and watch in awe as you share new adventures with us. Blessed New Year!

~G~hugs

Allison and Jason Domingues said...

Hi Debbie...while we are so sad to see you leave the Village (I remember my level of excitement when I saw that you were moving in!), we have even more respect for you now...as a person, and business owner. As fellow business owners, we have always said that when our work stops being fun, that is the day we will quit making a living at it. You have proven yourself as an extremely successful businesswoman, and because of that, will no doubt be able to continue to be successful at your business (no matter how you choose to operate it). Kudos to you for putting life, health, and happiness first, and choosing to craft your business around those priorities. You will be so much happier, healthier, and will be able to remember why you started doing this in the first place. We look forward to perusing your online shop and continuing to be loyal customers. Happy New Year, and WAY TO GO!!! :)

Angie said...

To Deb, Heather, Abby, Dana & Jessi,
I wish each of you nothing but the best in 2011. Each one of you is a personal friend that I admire and respect in so many ways. I know it's been a rough and emotional couple of weeks, but I hope you go into the new year with your head held high and realize how talented you truly are. I will, of course, miss you and the shop very much... I learned so much in my years working there and gained a great group of friends in the process! Cheers to each of you!
xoxo----Angie Snow*

Sweet Old Vintage said...

Now retired and being in retail floral and gift I totally understand what you are saying... I love coming to your blog and will continue to come and see your offerings... Best wishes to you to find much happiness and contentment in your new venture... It sounds fabulous... Good Luch.

Suzanne said...

Bravo to you!!! Your shop was on my bucket list of places to visit when I retire in two years. It doesn't matter whether that was ever realized or not. It was just so much fun to imagine walking in and being wowed. Thanks for that wonderful dream.

You go girl!!!!!

Suzanne, the Farmer's Wife

Glamarella Junk-Sherry said...

Debbie I totally get it....you are just creating another chapter to your life. I will contiue to follow what you are up to next, and maybe running into some day soon! May God continue on blessing you! Happy New Year!!!!!
xo Sherry- Glamarella Junk
So. California

Teresa said...

Attic Rat has left a new comment on your post "The Reason":

I can't wait to see what this new chapter of your life holds.

HaVE a blessed 2011!

Smiles,
Teresa

Anonymous said...

You said it all beautifully.... hugs...tears... and cheers to you for all that you have accomplished and will continue to accomplish with a sigh of relief and a breath of fresh air. May God Bless you and Pearlie Sue in your new endeavors.... after a well deserved rest.

*Michelle

LizlovesVintage said...

Deb,
When I heard the news, my heart sank. I never made it to the store, since I live in NY:( I hear you! You are a strong Woman telling your story to all to be heard.Best of luck to you in the future. Hope to hear from you via your Blog. Enjoy, your new freedom. Hope you have some time for yourself, to do what you love Antique. My passion also.
xx Liz

Curtains In My Tree said...

Well said


Good Luck and I want a vintage trailer also.

I had the privilege of meeting and setting up with The Sisters on the Fly In Atlanta Georgia I can see you in one of those fancy girly vintage trailers.

Of course instead of fishing for fish you will be fishing for treasures.



Janice

Mary Frances said...

First of all...Happy Birthday to your lovely mama...may she live to be one hundred and 90!! I, too, will miss reading posts about the store, but having been an avid follower of Abby Kerr and her posts about her former store, The Blissful, I totally get that marvelous places like yours and hers could not exist without propietors who gave 200% round the clock! I will continue to support you and Abby in this next "time of your lives"...such gifted women deserve to love the lives they live, and live the lives they love!! Bon chance, buena suerte, and good luck...and see you and Pearl in Round Top real soon!!

Cathy said...

You speak the utter truth! Congratulations on making a great decision and how exciting the future will be....can't wait to hear about your travels. I owned a wonderful tea shop in downtown Durham, NC...had a wonderful time, but wow, such a drain on me....as you said, you become consumed. I look back and am so glad I did it and so glad I made the decision to close too! Bravo and mazel tov!!!

Gail Thayer said...

Life is short, follow your dreams (you clearly are!) and be happy and creative.
I think you have it all covered........:)
I do hope 2011 is your best year ever!

Joanne said...

Life is all about change and good for you for realizing when you weren't happy. All the best as you take this new direction and I look forward to following you!

Martine said...

Happy new year to you and i wish you all the best in the world.
XXXm

Lori Miller, Round barn Potting Co. said...

We learn and we grow and we move on. You just happen to grow faster then some of use out here.

I can not wait to see what you come up with in 2011....

Class all the way!
L

sadienstella said...

Never made it to your shop in person but have enjoyed it these last few years via magazines and your wonderful blog. Wishing you much happiness with your new adventure and joy, balance and peace~~The magic of the shop will live on....

Angie @vivalacottage said...

Good for you girl, good for you.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for the explanation.

Although I was not fortunate enough to live near your shop and become one of your best customers, I was always amazed & inspired by what you were selling....you have the most exquisite taste (and I should know because I think I have pretty good taste too)
I have shop in Canada (a boutique of highly collectible and unusual clothing and jewellery) but after 15 years, and a lot of the same struggles you have faced and described, I am also ready to call it a day....this year.
No one but a non-mediocre shop owner could know the hard work and devotion not to mention unlimited amounts of time spent creating, maintaining, stocking, promoting and worrying about your business. You never really get away from it. BUT when times are slower and sales dwindle, it gives you time to reflect on what is really important to you....but the decision to close your beloved store is monumental and very sad. I imagine that your ego has a hard time letting go of the physical space you ahve created (it will for me anyway), where people come to buy and get inspired....lately too much of the latter and not enough of the former. So it will also be a relief to not have that huge worry of owning and operating a shop weighing constantly on your shoulders and your mind.
So, with all that being said, I commend you for your courage to let it go and begin a new chapter of your life...one which I truly believe will be much more balanced and fun.
I just hope that when my lease is up this coming December, I have the courage to follow through with a similar plan.
Wish me luck!!
Good luck to you!!

Carol said...

Oops...I forgot to ask...will you continue to sell furniture?
Carol

My Shabby Passion said...

I have followed your blog for a long time, and really hoped someday to take a trip to Kansas, just to visit your wonderful shop. Good luck to all your new ventures. I'm sure you will not disapoint us, but most important is to be true to yourself. 2011 will be great!
Michelle

MARY PERNULA said...

Best wishes and I will continue to admire your work. I simply understand need for balance. HUGS MARY

Touchofeurope said...

Very well put and very well written. And so true, all of it. It's wonderful how you showed a glimpse of the behind the scenes stuff, and your behind the scenes is so much more than many others' and yet you survived. Wow.

Now we'll be waiting for the Curious Sofa Trunk shows around the country....

summersundays-jw said...

Good for you!!! Love the idea of getting on the road in your little camper. I'm lucky enough to have several items that will always remind me of your shop -- it was always our main destination in KC. Hope you have an amazing 2011 & you'll share some of your adv entures with us. Peace, Jan

Anonymous said...

Dear Debbie:
I was in your store earlier today with my black lab, Cooper (people seem to remember him more than they remember me!) and I wanted to say how nice it was to meet you for the first time.

As a Prairie Village resident, Curious Sofa has been "my happy place." I loved standing in the entryway & stopping to look around. It was a mini-adventure to walk around & admire how the store glowed with beauty & creativity. Heather was always able to find the perfect gift, or special home accessory.

After reading your blog, it all makes complete sense. Thanks so much for your honesty.

I'll be visiting you on-line!

Warm Regards,
Kim

sandy said...

Your vision for the new year sounds wonderful, although I will miss all your special events even though I only attended on-line! I have respect for your leadership and honesty in navigating your life toward true happiness for you and Pearl. The Lord himself will be your beacon. Sounds like a whole lot of fun being in a vintage camper which I know you'll "trick out" for all to see! Best Wishes for You this Year!

SandyL

Debe said...

I have met your a couple of times...at Silver Bella & at the MEHC Worshop. My husband got to Curious Sofa which is almost as good as me getting there...I am sad I didn't get to go myself. I salute your creativity & understand what you are going through. Wish you the best & will shop OnLine now that I can!! A little bit of Curious Sofa..best of luck & I will look for you at Round Top in the spring!!

Sonya --Dime Store Thrift said...

Blessings to you, dear woman! As you can tell, we are all behind you 100%, and wish you nothing but the best in the coming year!! Thank you for your honestly and inspiration.
God Bless you!
Sonya

McGinnis Family said...

I still remember when single me first walked in your shop in the Crossroads 10 years ago . . . I believe I bought your first iron bed-it's antique blue and still my favorite thing. Then when I bought my first house . . . I bought your old desk to use as my kitchen table and I can't even COUNT the number of chairs around my house I have bought from you or gifts I have purchased in your beautiful store. When I got married a few years ago, you helped me to merge our 2 styles - more traditional than shabby chic . . . you helped my taste "grow up" a bit and through it all you've become a friend. As the years went on, you were on the "floor" less and less and I knew the store was becoming bigger and bigger. I would be a little sad when I didn't see you when I stopped in - as that was always the best part - saying hi to Debbie and Pearl and hearing of your latest adventures. You have NO IDEA how many lives you have touched in your 10 years as a "brick and mortar". I am so proud of you and your decision. I know it was a tough one. But, I am certain you are making the right one - and you had a great run - you are leaving (like Seinfeld) when you're still on TOP which is the best place to be. :) You will have no regrets. You accomplished your dream - and so much more! What other local store can get the national exposure you achieved with your little shop in just 10 years?? You will be in demand on the speaker circuit I am certain. You continue to be an interesting and curious soul and that is why we are all drawn to you. So happy you will continue to inspire us all and are doing what you love, as always. We should all demand 100% of whatever we do - not 80% as was suggested to you. What a valuable lesson you have taught us by example. Your life is very rich, very rich indeed. Thank you for EVERYTHING. :)

Carol said...

Debbie...I'm sad to see the store close but totally understand! Please let me know when you come to Brimfield. I'm 45 minutes away and would love to meet you, show you a few local haunts in Amherst/Northampton and maybe fit in lunch or dinner.
Carol
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Charmaine McLaughlin said...

YOU GO GIRL! I respect what you are doing to regain your own world again! Thank you for your honesty. I have only had the opportunity to experience Curious Sofa from magazines and media so I will still be intrigued by what your new on-line endeavors will be! Best wishes and many blessings for your new life!

Janet Bernasconi said...

I really enjoyed your heartfelt post. I know it was a tough decision,but am glad to know that you are not giving up and starting a new venture. I am sure it will be wonderful.
All the best to you,

Janet Bernasconi
Janet's Creative Pillows

Erin said...

Thank you so much for sharing your story with us...you did not have to do that and it means so much to hear the words straight from your heart. I live in Overland Park and will miss your beautiful store dearly--but will remain a huge fan of your amazing style and can't wait to see what treasures you find for us on your travels! Wishing you the very best in 2011!

Whitney said...

Bless You Debbie! When an artist like yourself has felt the need to move onto other adventures...DO IT! I have always believed that everyone should try being a waitress/waiter OR work in RETAIL! You will have an appreciation for those who do because it ain't for sissy's!

I flew to Kansas from Oregon for one night JUST TO VISIT YOUR CURIOUS SOFA STORE and loved it! I felt the creative juices flowing in every inch of your shop...simply amazing and wondered how the heck can you do it all? You and your staff made me feel so special and you were all working late for the Miss Frenchie's evening market- how the heck do you keep that energized when you are working 24/7? It's not easy.

Retail/owning a shop can take a toll on a person emotionally, physically, creatively and spiritually when you are pulled in so many directions with everything weighing on YOU!

Some people/customers do not understand how much it takes to buy for your store, set up for your store, create beautiful new settings, price it all, dust it, sell it AND host that party everyday for each and every customer! Wanting to give of your time, your ideas, and your talents only to be asked if you can give them an even better price! ;) (It's not always like that, but know it happens often!)

I have been in retail for over 16 years and part of a family run store that has been in biz for 57 years. It easy to dive into retail and loose yourself! Forget about your needs...we want to learn how to tend to our shop and tend to the needs of others, always!

HATS OFF TO YOU DEBBIE for making retail wonderful & beautiful! You deserve some time to tend to YOU do what inspires you in life-

Cheers to you!

Zita - Mlle Magpie said...

You go, Debbie!!! Wishing you all the best in your "new life". I am all for work-life balance and sometimes you just have to do what you have to do to thrive. I've admired you and your shop ever since the first Country Living feature. Even though I've never had the incredible privilege of stepping foot into your legendary shop, at least I got to meet you ever so briefly at the Silver Bella Market last November :) p.s. Pearl is such a sweetheart!

Anonymous said...

Wonderful post. Curioussofa.com is already set as a "Favorite" on my computer. Get some rest and turn the chapter to new beginnings in 2011. Peace to you and Pearl.
Tracy
Houston,TX

Pandora said...

Wow - I am stunned to read you are closing your store! But after reading your entire post, I see that this is a fabulous new direction for you and I will be glued to your blog (as always) to see what you come up with. You have been a huge inspiration to me (with my antiques booth) and I know that your new venture will succeed like nobody's business :-) Best of luck with everything!!

~Sheri~ said...

U go girl......I think u r making a wisw desicion...just tremember to take a breath....cause online sales and takn fabulous pics can be overwhelming as wll...and we never get away from it cause we have our computers with us all the time. Enjoy your time...and get the lil trailer of your dreams..I have mine. my goal is to actually use her......I have made major changes in my life and my lil trailer..really should b sold but i m holdn on to that lik dreamm for as long as I can :) Happy new year.

Maggie said...

Several years ago, my sister tore your picture out of a Country Living article and sent it to me, telling me I should cut my hair like yours! I started reading the torn copy around your photo and got very "curious" about your shop (I loved your hair, too, but was WAY more interested in your stuff and your story!). Then I kept seeing you crop up in other publications, when I realized your shop was located in the same KC suburb where I have family! Visiting them this past summer from Portland, OR, I finally got to your store on my way to the airport in August, and recognized the displays and fixtures from the various articles I had read (and saved), and truly loved it. I'm now a devotee of your blog and plan on lots of online shopping in the future. Love your sense of style and your keen eye for wonderful antiques. Best of luck to you and your talented staff. You are, in a word, awesome (and I'm still thinking of cutting my hair like yours!). All the best to you in 2011 and beyond!

Sally Hart Designs said...

I've made an annual pilgrimage to Curious Sofa [from MN] for the last 5 years and have loved every visit. Heather has been my go-to girl and ever so helpful! Will miss you Heather! And Debbie, it was fun to see you in St. Louis and at the Junk Bonanza. Maybe we'll meet again! Best of luck with your new adventures and know that you made so many people happy with your lovely little store and your inspirational ideas . . . in KANSAS!

Kelley said...

I can only imagine the sacrifice that it took to keep such a great place so magnificent. I am happy to hear that you found another way to succeed with the online store - not by lowering your standards. I look forward to seeing more of you in print and expanding the online. Thanks for all the inspiration!!

dianneconner said...

HEartfelt wishes for a PEACEFUL new year and fun projects and travels! It is not easy to own a business, and even though I was never there is person. I followed your blog and inhaled the pictures from all the publications you were in. Your success in touching many lives was evident - now go be selfish!
If you come to California, please do visit San Luis Obispo and Petit Soleil! I, and many of my friends, would love to meet you!
Cheers,
Dianne Conner

Faith said...

I never had the opportunity to visit your shop - but have enjoyed seeing it in magazines and have certainly loved reading your blog - which I will still do. Congratuations on this 'life change'. I know you will be successful! Happy New Year! ~ Faith

All that Jazz said...

Debbie: I have always had such high regard for you and you wonderful, artistic, reinventive characteristics. You have been my mentor for this business as we know it. I totally understand everything you are saying, and I so admire you for taking a stand now and starting another season of your life. I am so excited for you and I truly believe that you will succeed at EVERYTHING you set out to accomplish. Happy New Year to you....and have fun!

Joyce

Debbie Dusenberry said...

Thank you everybody for all your kind words, understanding and encouragement. Closing the store was not an easy decision but I believe it is the best thing for me and I am more excited than ever to move on to other things. Wondering how everyone would respond was the hardest thing to come to terms with and all of your comments have helped me breathe a sigh of relief! Thank you.

Tammy said...

Have a wonderful new beginning!

I often longed for a book that had your displays and photos of the shop in one place. I love your eye...I found myself saving CL magazines for years because your shop was featured! A book...pretty please?

Jeana said...

Both my father and father-in-law were self-employed, and family - as well as their relationships - paid a price. Yes, I am disappointed the store is closing but so glad you are being true to yourself. You only live once. My only regret is that I didn't stop at your store last Labor Day when I was in KC! Oh, well...

Anonymous said...

You have been on my list of places to see and I have thoroughly enjoyed your blog! I know this was not an easy decision as my very best friend is going through the exact same thing....it is agonizing. I will continue to keep up with you as you are an inspiration. I wish you the best of luck, great joy, good health, prosperity, many blessings and a whole lot of fun! A friend and I are talking of buying a vintage camper also and traveling so maybe we will cross paths one day.

PS: I still want a pair of those giant wooden angel wings....please!!!!

Godspeed!

Katherine

clustres said...

Best wishes to you! You needn't worry about your loyal fans--they will stick with you! I am looking forward to whatever Curious Sofa is doing and to your expanded blog!
Pam

Calico Petals said...

Debbie,
Congratulations for recognizing it was time to make a change.
I have always thought change was good.
Best of luck to you and your NEW adventures!
Have a prosperous New Year inside and out!
Jill 00

Laura Lynch said...

Amen, God bless, God speed and go forward! I was there when you launched your dream, and will be there for you in all your future endeavors. As always, my friend.

natalie hansen said...

Debbie,
I was so disappointed to not have been able to come to your store in November, when my girlfriends visited right before Silver Bella...But I was happy to have met you at vendor night, and thrilled to see some of my necklaces in your Dec 2 blog post!
I wish you the very best in your new journey, and hope that our paths cross again sometime soon! Good luck, Natalie Hansen

Alice said...

My mother-in-law ran a flower/gift shop in our small town, and I know the work that goes into a business such as this, especially if you are putting 100% into it like you do.

I'll be coming back often to see what lovely things you procure for your online shop. I know you will enjoy your new adventure, and we will too!

Anonymous said...

Being a store owner does have its fun and wonderful times. I do however, feel your pain through all the challenges you have related on having an over-time occupation. If you do lose your passion and joy in the huge commitment of it all, I totally understand how you could lose your motivation. We feel very fortunate to have been in business as long as we have, or creating that niche in the rural community that we are in maybe is our advantage over your high rent location. Who knows. You have to keep the balance in your life, keep your spiritual life as top priority, and follow your heart into all, and focus on others and family above all. We wish you the best of the rest of your adventures and life journey.!!! You are on the way to "your best is yet to be...." Take care of yourself! Barb@SISTERSgarden in IOWA

Margie Peppers said...

Your best years are yet to come!!! I closed my store last year right before christmas and I have had the best year of my life! You will appreciate the small things that you have given up for the last 10 years. Like sitting at an auction all day and not feeling guilty or getting calls from the store, sleeping in on the day after Thanksgiving and Christmas. Actually decorating your home for the holidays and having friends over to your house and really entertaining again. I wish you the best of luck and happiness!
Michele

Anonymous said...

Good luck. wish I could have made it to your store but Kansas is a long way from Calif. I thought your 'vision' was lovely, thanks for sharing !!

Amber@Timeless Treasures said...

*sigh* Your store as been as wonderful escape for this new mama of three kiddies! When I was in your shop last week I felt so sad. I felt as though I was ruffling through someone very close to me that had passed away- but, you are right, if we weren't sad about you leaving then that meant you didn't achieve the goal you set out to get. You, your store, your staff are all phenomenal and that is why it is so hard to let go! I will treasure all of my goodies that I hunted for in your shop and will find good spots for them in the changing seasons. Enjoy your much needed break and enjoy the small things in life again... and until next time... I'll be your loyal blog reader.

All the best~
Amber

lori akins said...

Debbie,you have 89 comments so far,a small sprinkling of folks who have admired your outstanding efforts.Which are commendable.Many of us are sad to see our familiar and true favorite brick and mortar go.You have trained us to expect great things.You have collected a fine supportive group of fans.Now we are preparing ourselves to follow you in a new direction.You are a leader ,so lead onward.We are with you!Thanks for keeping us around......

Anonymous said...

a far north missourian, and not a shopper, i have made it to your store twice since i knew about it. and it was a wonderful place to even walk into. it's kind of like farming; as much as you love your farm, sometimes it would be easier if it wasn't your home as well. 80% just is not an option for any sucessfull business. but for a creative soul to do such a great job for as long as the store was open, was quite a feat. i am looking forward to more of your blog.
God bless'

Olde Tyme Marketplace said...

Hello Debbie,
We've never met but I feel like I know you.
I have had a shop in some way shape or form since I graduated high school in 1987. Hard work? You said it girl!
This post was phenominal. After reading it I was overwhelmed at how beautifully worded it was.
You described shop life perfectly~ all the work, the joy, the stress, the rewards.
I totally understand where you are coming from and wish you the best of luck. A brick and mortar is just a building~ the business resides in your heart.
This is only the beginning,
Beth

Gracefully Vintage said...

Debbie, I totally Understand, I dream, day dream,night dream and constantly think of my shoppe. Every sent. or at any given moment my shoppe is on my mind. And im trying to be careful , to not get burnt out, and lose what i love so much.. YOU Said it Perfectly and I am so THRilled YOu will still be ONLINE and hopefully an avid Blogger-with more time, so i can still follow, and WISH you all the BEsT.. as i can relate, Detail Matters as well as putting 150% plus into it...

THanks for the explanation...
Karryann

marietta said...

I am happy for you....I know you will be a success in whatever you do. I live in Kentucky and often wished I could have visited your store. However, I am looking forward to what you have up your sleeve. I love your blog!!!

debra said...

deb, so glad you came to this decision at the 10 year mark, unlike me. I've just hit my twenty year anniversary of a brick and mortar vintage shop..i, like you, am exhausted!!!
Have arrived at the same destination and am trying to be brave and move forward toward the life I REALLY want to live!
thanks girl...see you online

liz said...

Deb . . . wishing you the very best on your new adventure . . . 2011 is going to be wonderful!! And yes . . .it will also be full of magic - the special kind I just know it!! :) Sending many blessings your way!! hope to meet you on the junking highway :) xo - liz

Ann said...

Thanks for letting us know why you decided to close shop. I wish you the best of luck with your online store. I always thought I would make it back to Kansas some day to visit you. Now I can just go online!

Mitzi Curi said...

My parents owned a successful gift shop, The Mole Hole, which was one of a franchise. Later, they had a boutique and gift shop called The Wind in the Willows in Naples, Florida. I know how much work a successful business can be. Believe me, I know. I totally understand your reasons for a life change. If you ever had an interest in becoming a consultant, I'm sure you would be in high demand. But perhaps your online venture will be enough to keep you busy. I know it will be a huge success, so get ready for another wild ride!

Tanya said...

I understand completely. I had a retail store for about 2 years (when all 3 of my children were young) and it was crazy. Wonderful, terrible and everything in between! Wish I could have made it to your store but I'm sure the online store will be fantastic.

Pamela Manes said...

I have been looking at your blog for the past year and have always enjoyed. I live in Springfield, MO and was thrilled when me and my husband planned a trip to Kansas City the second week of December.

I really loved your store and feel fortunate to have had a chance to visit!

I understand your rationale for closing the store and wish you the very best in your endeavor. And I will look for your online store.

Happy 2011.

Elizabeth Maxson said...

I get it.
And I love you.
And you know that I will always look up to you.

Your #1Fan
Elizabeth :-)

Moonegirl said...

Your blog has inspired me daily for almost 3 years! I could not go to your store, but I have purchased every publication with Curious Sofa in it. The reason is not because you started and continued this amazing store and business, though you clearly did that!
Every photo, every item or vignette has been truly lovely like a dance through time. Your story, your posts, your photos are what really keeps a girl coming back for more. Creativity breeds creativity and I am sure you have spawned a host of women towards their true artistic potential!
Thank you for never giving up on your dreams, not even now. Being willing to take risk-like when buying antiques-is how you have had so much success. I believe you will be happy again!!
Now, just write a book in one of those comfy chairs of yours and tell the rest of us how to design, how to do sets and to design shoots....then you will have a legacy to add to your ever growing list of achievements. Even a coffee table photo book. We really want you to, Debbie!! A longtime fan who hopes to start checking off my own list now that the kids are grown-here's to the next Big Wow! Gaylyn

Cindy D. said...

Congratulations Debbie on following your heart! I've admired you from afar and turned to your website and blog when I was in need of motivation for my own store. I struggle with the same decision as I become more and more "burned out" each day. I go over in my head "how will I do it?, how will I explain it to my customers?" You explained it so well. It is so hard to keep up the "Wow" factor. People who have never been in the retail business have no idea how much work is involved! Thank you for being a great inspiration and the best of luck with your next great adventure! Cindy

Joanna May said...

Dear Debbie, I am now 25 years old, and for years, I have been following your blog, and as a local, reveling in the inspiration your store provided. The first time I saw your work, I felt like somebody finally "got" me. (and executed it much better than I) As an 17-year-old doing mixed media collage with antique photographs (before I knew that was a big thing that everyone was doing that too), installing old porch columns as a headboard, and visiting flea markets with my dad and dreaming of architectural salvage, I finally had a role model. I visited your store through the seasons, and year after year was so inspired. I hoped one day I could work in the store, or have a home of my own to decorate. Last year, I happened upon the Dusenberry Diary articles on the NYTimes, and was not surprised to hear of your decision to close the store (although personally heartbroken, as I've just gotten married with a house to finally decorate, it definitely sounds like the right decision for you!). I'm sure many people have told you this, but your style, decor savvy, and forthrightness in your posts have truly inspired me and many others. As someone who probably won't be able to afford anything from your online store, I'd love to see a local open house or something like that :)

Blessings,

Joanna May

Debbie Dusenberry said...

Oh Joanna, You MUST shop the online store because there will be MANY things you can afford! The prices online are just like the prices used to be in the store: all over the map. Some as little as $7.50 up to $250. Please check often especially next month and into the Spring when I get caught up with new items.

VINTAGE HOME lifestyle said...

I have been a big fan of yours for years. Change is good and I am going to enjoy watching yours. Being a store owner in the past myself I know how much hard work it is and when you loose your passion, it takes the joy out of it. Good luck with your new venture. I am sure it will be just as amazing as your shoppe.
Best wishes to you...
Cathleen

Anonymous said...

Dear Debbie - After reading your "reason" for "Why is Curious Sofa closing?" I was truly touched and moved.....as I too have had the wonderful experience of dreaming of, and opening my own business...Yours being more antiques, mine being a small specialty nursery(plants) and gift shop, which specialized in vintage items, and of course, you always have some reproduction vintage, too scattered here & there...But with it being YOUR decision to close, with 50% economy & 50% lifestyle change...mine was 80% economy & 20% lifestyle change. But with customers choosing whether or not to eat, pay mortgages etc. rather than shop, it hurts us all. I had to close in Sept 2008, and the community lost "another" great charming retail shop to go to for unique things. I held out for 5 years, and had just started making a profit, when the bottom fell out from underneath me, and my dream light was snuffed out...Today, after 2 years of being gone...I'm still very sad, when I look back and see the wonderful pictures I took, the special events, the great customers/friends I made along the way, and how much work I put into it...like yourself with 200%...Its all I did, with every moment I was awake. I would tell anyone now...that if you don't have a passion for what you want to do, in regards to opening a business, and you don't make a commitment to "being there" for the long haul...you might rethink about what you want to do. I am so grateful to be able to tell others that I DID have my OWN business, where others only "talk" about doing it...I made it happen, and for that...I am very proud of myself for accomplishing in my lifetime. I'm sure you have the same feelings about it as well. I know one of the happiest days WAS opening up for the FIRST DAY of biz, but I don't think I agree with it, also being the last day of being in biz....It was a very emotionally draining day....dismantling the shop & nursery, basically giving stuff to those who helped me in closing..Many Uhaul trips, to storage, my fathers backyard, a friends garage & barn, and the rest coming home to an already packed garage/driveway & home! I think we moved "the stuff" at least 3-4 times, in 2 yrs!! And still wondering & processing being closed, and "thinking" of having small get-togethers, for close friends/customers, at the house...You, my dear, have MUCH more energy than I do, to do the online thingy, and keep buying & selling...My plan was to open it, keep it going for years & years, and then retire, selling the property to live off until I was gone!! Didn't work out, as planned, unforutnately. Thank you for the honest & open post of YOUR experience, in closing your store as well...I totally GET IT...not just mentally, but emotionally, cause now I can say, that I have done it too! Been there, done that!! Thanks again, and Best to you, and Good Luck for your future endeavors for keeping Curious Sofa, alive!!
Best Wishes,
Curtis West & Michael Clark
Proprietors of
Vintagehouse Nursery Co. & General Store.
Yuba City, Cal.
est. 2003-2008

Anonymous said...

Debbie,

what a hard decision to make. As a Fan who used to visit your downtown store during lunch hour, I looked forward to your window, and holidays displays (especially halloween). It was all in the details. Your creativity inspired my creative side many times.
I visit your blog often, because I couldn't make to the new Store. I'm sad that the store is no longer there, but YOU need to do what you Love. I admire and respect your decision and you are going to do great things... can't wait to see what you have in store for us!
- Jena

Jann said...

I just dicovered your blog. I, too made the decision to close my floral store and might I say..."just in the nick of time" for the economy. Actually I sold it and thank goodness I did. When you put your heart and soul into a business, your heart and soul sometimes lack that imaginational creativity of your own life. You have obviously touched so many people and offered them your warmth. Please now take time to offer that to yourself. You will be brilliant on line Technology offers us all the pleasures and experiences of "still keeping" in contact with Curious Sofa. You obtained your goal, heightened all with treasured memories and possessions. I am sure that you will succeed in that once more here on line. Thank you for touching so many lives in so many treasured ways. Count me in as one of your admirers and appreciative fans...good luck..and once more...thank you so much again...Courage and talent, warmth and the ability to shine from ones self when another needs it the most....how great of an honor from you to us al.. is that...:o) Hugs from Idaho....